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25. grieving a living person? and what to do next.

Are you grieving someone who is still alive? Are you stuck in a season of long-term grief, sadness, or depression that just won’t lift? This message is for the person who has been mourning for far too long.
 
In this episode of Pure Surrender Podcast, Brittany Hall walks through 1 Samuel 15–16 and the powerful moment when God tells Samuel:
 
“You have mourned long enough.”
 
Samuel grieved constantly for Saul — someone still living. And maybe you are grieving:
• A relationship you never had
• A parent who was emotionally unavailable
• A friendship that ended
• A job you lost
• A season you can’t go back to
• A person who is still alive, but no longer in your life
 
This is not a message for fresh grief.
This is for the person who has been dwelling in it for months… maybe years.
 
In this episode, we talk about:
 
✨ What it means to grieve someone still alive
✨ The Hebrew meaning of “mourn” in 1 Samuel
✨ Why God isn’t saying “get over it”
✨ What “fill your horn with oil” really represents
✨ How to move forward with God after prolonged grief
✨ Being used by God after heartbreak
 
God still used Samuel.
And He can still use you.
 
If you’ve been living in a constant emotional state of grief, this message will gently guide you toward healing, purpose, and movement again.
 
🎙 Pure Surrender Podcast
Hosted by Brittany Hall
 
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00:00 Grieving Someone Still Alive: Who This Message Is For
00:25 Welcome (Prayer & Purpose)
01:50 Scripture Setup: Samuel Mourns Saul (1 Samuel 15)
03:18 When Grief Becomes a Lifestyle: ‘Mourned Constantly’
05:35 God’s Gentle Call (1 Sam 16:1)
07:45 How Do I Move Forward? Fear, Obedience, and God’s Next Assignment
08:25 Fill the Horn With Oil: Strength for a New Season & New Calling
11:37 Step Out and Let God Use Your Story (Final Prayer)
 
 

24. stuck trying to break generational cycles? it's time to do this NOW!

If you’ve been feeling stuck—spiritually stagnant, emotionally exhausted, or trapped in the same cycles year after year—this episode is for you.In this powerful episode of the Pure Surrender Podcast, host Brittany Hall shares a Holy Spirit–led message about breaking generational cycles, dismantling old foundations, and stepping into the new place God is calling you to. Drawing from Deuteronomy 1:6–8, we explore God’s loving command: “You have stayed at this mountain long enough.”This episode speaks directly to those who have lived too long in survival mode—carrying biological family trauma, betrayal, grief, fear, or limiting beliefs—and are ready to heal with Christ at the center. Just as the Israelites were called to break camp, dismantle their tents, and trust God into the Promised Land, you are being invited to leave behind what no longer serves God’s purpose in your life.Inside this episode, you’ll hear: • What it means—biblically and spiritually—to “break camp” • How old mindsets, family patterns, and learned behaviors can keep us stuck • Why God sometimes asks us to dismantle what we’ve known before rebuilding something new • How to trust God when you can’t see every step • Reflection questions to help you step into healing, obedience, and freedom through ChristThis message is for the one who is tired of circling the same mountain.For the one healing from generational trauma.For the one learning to trust God instead of self-sufficiency.For the one ready to move forward—even if it feels scary.You are not disqualified by where you’ve been.You are called, chosen, and invited into something new.It’s time to break camp.It’s time to move on.It’s time to occupy the place God has already given you.00:00 Introduction and Welcome00:54 Opening Prayer02:17 Setting the Context: Israelites in the Wilderness03:03 The 40-Year Journey03:39 Cycles of Distrust and Disobedience05:05 God's Command to Move On08:12 Breaking Camp: A Deeper Look08:58 Dismantling the Tent: Symbolism and Meaning09:55 The Tent of Meeting11:37 Trusting God and Moving Forward15:45 Reflection Questions17:49 Breaking Old Patterns18:21 Aligning with God's Word18:48 Taking Possession of God's Promises19:12 Conclusion and FarewellSpotify — https://open.spotify.com/show/39Ope4PHKxHOueJhSZ7aTD Apple — https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/pure-surrender-podcast/id1836325555 Youtube — https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLnyrk0VhLeDvclNjKzLGuoOxwHSk2xsRs Instagram -  https://www.instagram.com/puresurrenderpodcast 

23. why God removes us from toxic family systems & overcoming confusion

If you feel like you’ve been going in circles… waiting, wandering, or stuck in the in-between — this message is for you.If God brought you out of a toxic family system, but the path forward feels confusing, long, or unfamiliar, you’re not alone — and you’re not doing it wrong.In this episode of the Pure Surrender Podcast, Brittany Hall continues through Exodus 13, unpacking why God intentionally led Israel the long way after freeing them from Egypt. Even though the shortest road to the Promised Land was available, God chose a roundabout route — not to delay them, but to protect them, prepare them, and heal them.This teaching speaks directly to those who have experienced family estrangement, emotional abandonment, manipulation, or generational trauma, especially when separation was necessary for safety, healing, and obedience to God. Through Exodus 12:51 and Exodus 13:17–18, Brittany reveals the powerful distinction between God bringing you out and God leading you forward — and what your role is in that process.You’ll hear a deep biblical breakdown of: • Why God sometimes removes us from toxic family systems but leads us through unfamiliar territory • What it means that Israel left Egypt “like an army” — and later, “an army ready for battle” • The meaning of the third, fourth, and fifth generations in Exodus 13 and Exodus 20 • How generational consequences differ from generational punishment • Why separation can be God’s protection, not rejection • How God prepares cycle-breakers to build a new, godly foundation • What it looks like to trust God when the path forward isn’t the main roadIf you were raised in a household without a godly foundation — or one that appeared godly on the outside but was damaging behind closed doors — this episode offers clarity, validation, and hope. You are not being punished for what your parents did. You are living in the consequences God is now redeeming — and you may be the generation He chose to heal it.This message is for the one who: • Has been brought out of toxic family dynamics but struggles not to go back • Feels grief, confusion, or guilt over separation • Is learning how to follow God without the old family structure • Knows God called them out, but doesn’t yet see where He’s leading them • Is ready to stop repeating cycles and build something newYou are not lost.You are not behind.You are not abandoned.You are the cycle breaker.You are the fifth generation.And God has already prepared you for this.🎧 Listen, reflect, and be encouraged — even if the road feels longer than expected.00:00 Introduction: Embracing the Unknown00:25 Welcome to Pure Surrender Podcast00:32 Exodus 13: The Journey Begins01:29 God's Roundabout Way02:17 The Purpose of the Long Route03:29 Generational Impact and God's Protection07:17 Breaking Free from Family Trauma09:19 Conclusion: Ready for BattleSpotify — https://open.spotify.com/show/39Ope4PHKxHOueJhSZ7aTD Apple — https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/pure-surrender-podcast/id1836325555 Youtube — https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLnyrk0VhLeDvclNjKzLGuoOxwHSk2xsRs Instagram -  https://www.instagram.com/puresurrenderpodcast 

22. God led people away from abuse, not into it. (part 2)

If God has brought you out of an abusive home, toxic family dynamics, or a long season of spiritual, emotional, or relational bondage, this episode is for you. In this episode of the Pure Surrender Podcast, we walk through Exodus 12–13 and reflect on how God leads His people out of slavery, cruelty, and suffering — not just to rescue them, but to heal them, re-orient them, and teach them how to remember what He has done.Many believers struggle in the aftermath of deliverance. We love God, yet we carry grief over what we endured, confusion about what honoring God looks like now, and a quiet temptation to keep revisiting Egypt in our minds. In Scripture, God does something deeply compassionate: He tells His people to remember the very day He brought them out — not to relive the pain, but to mark the moment of freedom. He invites them to create rhythms of remembrance so they don’t return to bondage emotionally, spiritually, or relationally.In this episode, we explore how remembering deliverance becomes part of biblical healing. We talk about grieving what you didn’t have, honoring the process of healing, and then gently shifting perspective: What if the day associated with pain is also the day God rescued you? What if that moment could become a sacred marker — a reminder of His mighty hand rather than your suffering?This conversation is for believers healing from family trauma, abuse, or deep disappointment, who are learning how to move forward with God without minimizing their story or returning to what harmed them. Through Exodus, we see that God not only brings His people out — He teaches them how to live free, how to remember well, and how to celebrate deliverance even while walking through the wilderness.You may feel like you’re in the in-between right now. But you are no longer in Egypt. God is leading you to a new place, and this episode is an invitation to begin seeing your story — and your freedom — through His redemptive lens.00:00 Introduction and Recap00:36 Continuing the Journey in Exodus00:59 Reading from Exodus 12 and 1301:44 The Significance of the Celebration02:14 Personal Reflection and Encouragement02:22 Detailed Instructions for the Festival06:27 Modern Application of the Celebration08:13 Final Thoughts and EncouragementSpotify — https://open.spotify.com/show/39Ope4PHKxHOueJhSZ7aTD Apple — https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/pure-surrender-podcast/id1836325555 Youtube — https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLnyrk0VhLeDvclNjKzLGuoOxwHSk2xsRs Instagram -  https://www.instagram.com/puresurrenderpodcast 

21. suddenly estranged from your parents? for the christian mom with a mother wound. (part 1)

If you have been suddenly removed, separated, or forced out of a relationship you never thought you’d lose, especially from your mother or father — this message is for you.In today’s episode of the Pure Surrender Podcast, host Brittany Hall walks through Exodus 11–12 and Deuteronomy 22:6–7 to address one of the most painful and confusing questions believers face:How do you biblically heal from a mother wound or father wound—especially when those wounds came from authority figures God tells us to honor?Through the story of Israel’s sudden deliverance from Egypt, we explore how God sometimes removes His people quickly, unexpectedly, and without preparation—not as punishment, but as protection. Just as Israel was driven out of slavery in the middle of the night, many believers are forced out of toxic, abusive, or ungodly family systems they would have never left on their own.This episode speaks directly to those who:    •    Feel guilty for creating distance from a parent    •    Are wrestling with honoring parents who caused deep harm    •    Are struggling to let go of what’s familiar—even when it’s unhealthy    •    Feel spiritually confused about boundaries, obedience, and healing    •    Are seeking biblical clarity, not worldly adviceBrittany also unpacks the often-overlooked command in Deuteronomy 22:6–7—“You may take the young, but let the mother go, so that it may go well with you and you may live long.” This passage offers powerful insight into how God defines care, protection, release, and prosperity—and how letting go can actually be an act of obedience.If you’ve ever wondered:    •    Was God involved in this separation?    •    Is it biblical to let my parents go?    •    Why did this happen so suddenly?    •    Can I heal and still honor God?This episode will meet you right where you are—with truth, compassion, and Scripture.🕊️ You are not being abandoned—you are being delivered.🕊️ God does not rescue slowly when staying would destroy you.Take time this week to meditate on Exodus 11–12 and Deuteronomy 22:6–7, and allow God to show you what freedom, healing, and prosperity look like in His care.00:00 Introduction and Welcome00:27 Setting the Scene: The Israelites in Egypt00:52 The Plagues and Passover01:25 The Exodus Begins01:59 The Israelites' Departure03:33 God's Provision and Favor04:53 Personal Reflection: The Yeast Analogy06:25 Forced Out for a Reason07:49 Letting Go of Past Hurts11:51 Final Thoughts and PrayerSpotify — https://open.spotify.com/show/39Ope4PHKxHOueJhSZ7aTD Apple — https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/pure-surrender-podcast/id1836325555 Youtube — https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLnyrk0VhLeDvclNjKzLGuoOxwHSk2xsRs Instagram -  https://www.instagram.com/puresurrenderpodcast 

20. if you’re a christian mom going through the motions, do this now!

Rediscovering Obedience: Balancing Faith and Life | Pure Surrender Podcast with Brittany Hall. In this episode of Pure Surrender Podcast, host Brittany Hall discusses the concept of obedience in a Christian's life. Drawing from Matthew 6:25-34, Brittany encourages listeners to redefine obedience not just as following rules, but as deepening their personal relationship with Jesus. She emphasizes the importance of seeking God first and trusting in His provision. Brittany also suggests practical ways to rejuvenate one's spiritual walk, especially if feeling spiritually tired, by introducing variety and intentional quiet time with God. Lastly, she shares insights from Psalm 119:9-16 and elaborates on the Hebrew understanding of 'obedience' as a combination of hearing and doing God's will. Join Brittany as she prays for guidance and clarity for her listeners.00:00 Introduction and Encouragement00:19 Welcome to Pure Surrender Podcast00:33 The Importance of Obedience01:16 Scripture Reading: Matthew 603:18 Trusting God and Stepping into the Unknown04:32 Understanding Obedience06:33 Switching Up Your Spiritual Routine09:09 The Meaning of Biblical Obedience11:20 Exploring God's Precepts14:20 Conclusion and PrayerSpotify — https://open.spotify.com/show/39Ope4PHKxHOueJhSZ7aTD Apple — https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/pure-surrender-podcast/id1836325555 Youtube — https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLnyrk0VhLeDvclNjKzLGuoOxwHSk2xsRs Instagram -  https://www.instagram.com/puresurrenderpodcast 

19. 3 Scriptures to stop overthinking where God is calling you next.

Discovering God's Calling and Direction: How to Discern and Follow His Guidance | Pure Surrender PodcastIn this episode of the Pure Surrender Podcast, host Brittany Hall welcomes listeners back after a holiday break and discusses how to discern God's calling in their lives. She shares her own experiences, emphasizes the importance of obedience, and offers guidance on distinguishing between thoughts from God, oneself, or the enemy. Brittany encourages listeners to seek God's kingdom first, trust in His guidance, and commit their actions to Him. Through prayer, scripture, and obedience, learn to seek God's guidance in your daily life. Key scriptures include  Matthew 6:33-34 Proverbs 3:5-6 Psalms 119:9-16 Join Brittany as she explores what obedience looks like in different seasons of life and encourages living a life committed to God. Concludes by urging the audience to reflect on daily obedience and follow God's will, committing their lives and actions to Him.00:00 Welcome Back to Pure Surrender Podcast00:22 Today's Topic: Discerning God's Call01:07 Opening Prayer02:09 Seeking God's Kingdom First02:49 Trusting God's Plan04:15 Balancing Life and Obedience05:55 The Importance of Obedience07:49 Daily Obedience and Reflection12:18 Studying God's Word15:16 Encouragement from Timothy16:12 Using Your Spiritual Gifts16:30 Encouragement for Parents17:05 Praying for Wisdom and Understanding18:16 Final Scripture and Encouragement19:49 Closing Thoughts and FarewellSpotify — https://open.spotify.com/show/39Ope4PHKxHOueJhSZ7aTD Apple — https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/pure-surrender-podcast/id1836325555 Youtube — https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLnyrk0VhLeDvclNjKzLGuoOxwHSk2xsRs Instagram -  https://www.instagram.com/puresurrenderpodcast 

18. how to have faith in holiday disappointments

What do you do when you’re praying… believing… trusting God—and your circumstances don’t improve?What if things actually get harder?What if you don’t see any results at all?In this episode, we talk honestly about faith when nothing looks different—and how to keep believing God is still working behind the scenes.Using Hebrews 11, we walk through the lives of Abraham, Sarah, Noah, and others who trusted God without seeing immediate outcomes. Their stories remind us that faith isn’t about visible proof—it’s about believing God’s promises even when the waiting feels long and the silence feels loud.We also address the hidden disappointment many carry during the holidays—the grief, unmet expectations, unanswered prayers, and quiet doubts that can surface this time of year.We contrast Jeremiah 8, where the people sought healing apart from God and found none, with Luke 8, where a woman who suffered for 12 years reached for Jesus in faith and was immediately healed. The difference wasn’t effort—it was where her faith was placed.As Hebrews 11:6 reminds us:“Without faith it is impossible to please God, because anyone who comes to Him must believe that He exists and that He rewards those who sincerely seek Him.”This episode is for anyone who is:• Trusting God without visible change• Wrestling with disappointment or discouragement• Waiting on healing, breakthrough, or restoration• Choosing faith in the middle of uncertaintyGod is still working—even when you can’t see it.🎧 Listen in, be encouraged, and be reminded that faith is not sight—it’s trust.00:00 Introduction: Faith in Challenging Times00:20 Welcome to Pure Surrender Podcast00:58 Opening Prayer02:13 Scripture Reading: Hebrews 1102:31 The Meaning of Advent03:11 Hidden Disappointments During the Holidays04:22 Struggling with Faith in Difficult Circumstances05:51 Examples of Faith from Hebrews 1109:04 Understanding Faith Beyond Sight10:53 Trusting God's Plan13:20 Understanding Conviction and God's Guidance14:17 The Essence of Faith and Trust in God18:49 Faith in Times of Waiting and Uncertainty20:00 The Healing Power of Faith: Jarius and the Bleeding Woman22:32 Lessons from Jeremiah: Faith and Healing24:13 A Prayer for Faith and HealingSpotify — https://open.spotify.com/show/39Ope4PHKxHOueJhSZ7aTD Apple — https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/pure-surrender-podcast/id1836325555 Youtube — https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLnyrk0VhLeDvclNjKzLGuoOxwHSk2xsRs Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/puresurrenderpodcast

17. how to biblically heal and let go of what's been holding you back.

If you’ve been holding on to something God has been asking you to release… this message is for you.In today’s episode, we’re talking about letting go, moving forward, and learning how to give the weight of the past fully to God so you can finally step into the new thing He’s forming in you.We’ll walk through Isaiah 43:18–19 (“Forget the former things… see, I am doing a new thing”) and Revelation 21:5 (“Behold, I make all things new”), and how these scriptures speak directly to this season of transition, healing, and surrender.I’m also sharing a prophetic dream God gave me about release and renewal—and what it means for you if you’ve been feeling stuck, heavy, or unsure how to move forward.Then we’ll end with a powerful containment exercise—a trauma-informed, faith-centered practice that helps you safely set down what’s overwhelming, invite Jesus into the spaces that feel too big to carry, and make room for His peace.If you’re in a waiting season, a healing season, or a surrender season, I pray this encourages you deeply. God is not done with you. He is doing something new, even if you don’t see it yet.✨ Scriptures Mentioned:Isaiah 43:18–19Revelation 21:5Philippians 3:13–14Psalm 55:22✨ What You’ll Learn:• How to let go and release what God never asked you to carry• How to move forward into your new season• How to give your burdens to God and trust Him with the unknown• A practical containment exercise for emotional overwhelm• What the prophetic dream reveals about God’s heart for youIf this spoke to you, let me know in the comments. I’d love to pray for you. 💛00:00 Introduction and Welcome00:21 A Different Kind of Episode00:30 A Dream from God00:48 The Journey Begins01:29 Letting Go of the Past01:53 Scriptural Guidance02:25 Embracing the New06:04 Practical Steps to Let Go06:43 Containment Exercise09:37 Closing Prayer and FarewellSpotify — https://open.spotify.com/show/39Ope4PHKxHOueJhSZ7aTD Apple — https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/pure-surrender-podcast/id1836325555 Youtube — https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLnyrk0VhLeDvclNjKzLGuoOxwHSk2xsRs Instagram -  https://www.instagram.com/puresurrenderpodcast 

16. finding joy in the holidays after family estrangement, abandonment and rejection.

Since it’s Thanksgiving week, I wanted to share a scripture that I truly feel someone needs right now: 1 Thessalonians 5:16–18 — “Always be joyful. Never stop praying. Be thankful in all circumstances…”I know for many of us, this week isn’t all warm and cozy. The holidays can shine a big spotlight on what (or who) we’ve lost. Maybe this season brings up grief, broken family relationships, painful memories, or the ache of feeling alone. And if that’s you… I just want to say: I see you. God sees you. And you’re not the only one walking through this.In this episode, we sit down together and talk honestly about:✨ How to find gratitude when your heart feels heavy✨ What being “thankful in all circumstances” really means✨ Why it’s okay if joy doesn’t come naturally right now✨ How to pray when you don’t know what to say✨ What it looks like to hold onto even one small good thing✨ Recognizing when something isn’t from God — and stepping away from it✨ How God protects, comforts, and walks with you through hard holidaysThis is a gentle, slow, comforting conversation — one filled with light, Scripture, and the reminder that you are a child of God, and you do not walk in darkness, even when life feels dark.I also pray over you at the end — for peace, clarity, comfort, companionship, and the kind of joy only Jesus can give in seasons like this.If this Thanksgiving feels heavy, lonely, or overwhelming, come sit with me for a bit. Let’s look to Jesus together, breathe together, and remember the good that’s still here.Thanksgiving encouragement, Christian podcast, grief during the holidays, finding joy in hard times, 1 Thessalonians 5:18, faith and healing, Christian Thanksgiving message, comfort and prayer, holiday loneliness00:00 Introduction: Embracing the Holidays00:34 Welcome to Pure Surrender Podcast00:40 Scripture of the Week: First Thessalonians 5:1800:55 Finding Gratitude in Hard Times02:10 The Power of Prayer and Joy03:47 Holding on to Goodness and Avoiding Evil05:18 Children of Light: Embracing God's Protection08:29 Staying Clearheaded and Seeking Clarity09:12 Encouragement for Thanksgiving09:43 Closing Prayer and Thanksgiving WishesSpotify — https://open.spotify.com/show/39Ope4PHKxHOueJhSZ7aTD Apple — https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/pure-surrender-podcast/id1836325555 Youtube — https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLnyrk0VhLeDvclNjKzLGuoOxwHSk2xsRs Instagram -  https://www.instagram.com/puresurrenderpodcast